reverb14 is a prompt-a-day series for the month of December designed to reflect on 2014 and project on hopes and dreams for 2015. Through December 31st Meredith, Kat and I will post each day with a new prompt. Join us by writing, or join us by reading. Follow us on Twitter @project_reverb and hashtag #reverb14. Let’s reverb.
Prompt for December 1:
At the Start | Where did you start 2014? Give us some background on this year.
At the start of 2014, life was up in the air. Our house was just plans on paper at that point. We made the final changes and were waiting on the architect. We planned to submit our plans to the town and county entities by the end of January. And then we figured, okay, worse case, 10-12 weeks.
Our plans took 16 weeks to get through the various government entities. Which, in comparison, isn’t as bad as other localities. But, still felt like a punch in the gut to us.
In March we disconnected utilities and moved out. And the house sat until June.
That was the toughest time, I think. Just waiting for the town and county to processes our plans so something – anything! – could start.
We spend the majority of 2014 living with my parents while our house was being built, for which we are eternally grateful. This was a huge benefit to us. No rental house, support of family, etc… Not to say that there weren’t challenges aspects of so many people (and dogs) living together. It was hard. But we made it. And we all still love (and like!) each other.
So, at the start, I think Dan and I each thought, “this is a little crazy, this house thing.” But we held on tight and hoped that, in the end, it would be worth it.
Spoiler alert: it was. We’ve been in our house for just over a week, and we love it.
But this year was all about testing my patience, something I don’t have in large supply.
And for a lot of the year I felt like, well, a complainer. A whiner. A brat. A bad person.
I worried that living with my parents could cause damage to our relationship. We’re a close family. But, still, all the people in the house wasn’t easy. And my parents have busy, stressful jobs, and they were trying to make plans for their home, their retirement, etc… And, well, they had to put their lives on hold for those months we were living there.
I felt tortured about that. And the challenges of building a house. While taking care of two kids. And driving back and forth from our town where Kate’s school is and our doctors and our friends and back to my parent’s house each day made me crazy.
But I felt I couldn’t complain. Because we were doing all this so our family can live in this lovely home.
And then lots of stuff happened, personally and to my family, some I’ve shared, and some I haven’t. And each piece felt like an enormous weight.
But at the same time, our house was finishing up, coming together more lovely than we ever imagined. And I started working for NDI. And I got a couple other gigs. And the response to my podcast started increasing.
So. 2014. Some bad, very bad. Right next to wonderful, very wonderful.
I guess that’s life, no? The good with the bad? And that’s what makes us appreciate the good so much more.