Reverb 2016


#reverb16 / Day 31 / Hope

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Prompt for Day 31:

Hope. What are you hopeful for in the new year?

Hope. I’ve been thinking a lot about hope lately. If I don’t have hope, then…what do I have?

And I don’t mean wishful thinking. And I don’t mean blind faith.

But hope is something I can get behind.

Hope means wanting something to happen or the expectation or desire for something to happen. I do have desires and things I hope happen.

It means wanting more or maybe less. It means dreaming for better. Ambitions, goals, plans manifesting.

Hope is a noun and a verb. A thing and an action. Hope, in action. I like that.

Cheers to 2017!

#reverb16 / Day 30 / Undone

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Prompt for Day 30:

What did you leave undone?  Do you intend to try again in 2017 or let it go?

I don’t love to leave things undone. But I also don’t like to force myself to do things that just don’t work.

I’ve spent hours and days and years where I kept putting round pegs into square holes. And I did that again and again and again. And wondered why I wasn’t getting anywhere.

So sometimes it is best to leave things undone. Maybe it’s not the right time. Maybe I’ll pick them up again. Or I won’t. Or they will morph into something even bigger, better, and brighter.

#reverb16 / Day 29 / Habits

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Prompt for Day 29:

Habits.  Tell us one habit you would really like to undo in the new year – what is your strategy?  Will you replace it with a good habit instead?

I’m an Upholder, and I LOVE habits. I love thinking about habits, creating new habits, dissecting habits, using habits to get the most out of my time.

So there are the good habits. The exercise habit, the healthy eating habit, the writing habit, the creative habits.

And the not-so-good habits. The negative self talk habit. The perfectionism habit. The letting my inner critic rule my life habit.

I’ve spent the better part of my life working to get rid of those bad ones, recognizing those sneaky bad mental health habits. After lots of personal work, I’m learning to recognize when I’m falling back into those bad self-talk habits and replace them with self-acceptance habits.

The biggest ah ha moment for me this year was when I realized why I felt I had so much more time even though I had more responsibilities that I’ve ever had.

It’s because I don’t allow the negative self-talk habits into my mind.

And therefore freed up so much mental space.

And when I wasn’t using that mental space to treat myself poorly, I could use it to do all the things.

#reverb16 / Day 28 / Resolutions

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Prompt for Day 28:

Resolutions.  We don’t all make new year’s resolutions.  If you are making them, what is your biggest priority?  If you aren’t, tell us why – what is your experience or opinion on resolutions?

I’m still in the process of defining how I want to build my 2017. But I have been thinking a lot about goals vs. expectations vs. outcomes.

I’m an Upholder, so I love setting goals, and I can work towards them without much fuss. I don’t need external accountability. But I do have time constraints (like all people do). So I can’t set 1 trillion goals. Because no one has time for that.

So I’m thinking about how I can set realistic and achievable goals and how to create a love for the process, e.g. the whole point!

#reverb16 / Day 27 / Gifts

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Prompt for Day 27:

Gifts.  Sometimes we get gifts that we don’t want or need.  Are you honest with the person who gave it to you?  Or do your gift givers follow a tried-and-true wish list?  If you’re returning a gift this season, what is it and why?

I always get what I want. Because I ask for it.

I’ve learned that wanting other people to be mind readers is a set up for failure. Instead, I ask for what I want.

Since very early on in our relationship, I’ve been specific with Dan about what I want. Very, very specific. Throughout the year I send him emails with links to various things. I including the size, the color. And always a helpful and searchable subject line. “Sarah gift ideas birthday/Christmas.” I even send coupon codes.

I guess some might say that that’s not romantic. Or it kills the fun. Well. Not for me. For me, I find it most fun when people around me aren’t stressing over gifts. And I find it fun when I get what I want. I love a good win-win situation. And picking out my own gifts and relieving the stress of the gift giver?

That’s a win-win.

#reverb16 / Day 26 / Boxing Day

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Prompt for Day 26:

Boxing Day.  What does this holiday even mean?  I think Harry Potter does it.  But how do we unwind after the holiday?

After Christmas I’m eager to take all the decorations down. It was fun while it lasted. But after Christmas, I’m eager to clean the slate, get a fresh start. And that involved clearing out the Christmas decor and getting my house back to normal.

Even as a kid, I found the holiday aftermath tough. So many built up expectations, a different schedule, fun activities, anticipated gifts. And then… It’s over.

That mix of wanting to savor and ready for it all to be over. That, for me, is the tough part of the holidays.