Confession: I am not good at the weekend.
You all know I like to use a portion of Sunday to prepare for the week. But what about the rest of my weekend?
The truth is, I’m not that good at planning a good weekend.
I can plan my weeks just fine. I schedule my time as effectively and productively as possible. But my weekends seemed to nose dive into nothing.
I think the issue is, the week is easy for me to plan because it requires a schedule. And each day of the week dictates a certain thing to be done. For example, my work meetings are always Monday mornings. And Kate and I have music and movement class Tuesday mornings. Wednesdays are for the grocery and other errands. Playgroup is Thursday mornings. Fridays are for whatever I could not get done Monday through Thursday – and oftentimes a fun outing with friends.
But Saturday and Sunday? They’re loosey goosey. And I don’t do loosey goosey.
But I also want to leave myself some breathing room on Saturday and Sunday because my weeks are wrapped tighter than a pair of skinny jeans.
So, what usually happens at Casa Bagley? Dan and I start asking each other, “what should we do this weekend?” And we keep asking it. And asking it. And asking it. And before we know it, it’s Saturday at 1 p.m. And we’ve done nothing. Nothing fun or productive.
Soon I couldn’t take it. We had to do something. But I did not want to schedule so much that I felt like Monday through Sunday were just one, giant, continuous loop of errands and chores and drudgery. So for the past couple months, I’ve been working a system that seems to be working. A system where I can have fun, relax, and get things done.
Here’s what I do:
1. The Wednesday rule. I try to decide by Wednesday evening what’s going to happen that weekend. If we don’t have something previously scheduled like a family dinner or getting together with friends and find ourselves with an open weekend, by Wednesday night, I want to nail down something. It doesn’t have to be a big thing or a small thing. Just something. I go through our perpetual task list/fun list with Dan, and we settle on The Thing we’re going to do. That way, even if we don’t do anything else, we’ve done at least one thing.
2. Pick three things. I had a hard time finding out what was too much and what was too little to do on the weekends. Some weekends I felt completely overbooked, running from one thing to another. And other weekends, we barely left the house once. So, I like to have at least three things going on. That could mean things for me personally or things as a family. Or a combination. So maybe I’ll plan to get together with a girlfriend and prepare a couple blog posts. Then I’ll pick something to do with Dan and Kate. Three things are a plenty.
3. Advanced planning. Somewhere around the beginning of the month, Dan and I talk about what goals we want to accomplish. Perhaps it’s raking the yard, having friends over for dinner we haven’t seen in a while, going to see a movie, whatever. Then we plot those out and actually schedule them. Meaning, they are in both our calendars. And then they are not forgotten. Planning ahead ensure we actually do the things we set out to do. It also reminds me that I need to ask my parent’s to watch Kate or pick up materials for a project.
4. Go-to things to do. Plans fall through. Things change. Sometimes you have to go with the flow. So, I keep a back up plan in my mind of alternatives. We are members of Meadowlark Gardens, so we can always pop over there for a walk around and some picture taking. Or we could walk around Tysons Corner. Or do research at Home Depot for our never-ending home to-do list.
The other thing to remember is, I always own my choice, no matter the choice. So, a weekend of lazying around, catching up on Grey’s Anatomy, reading Game of Thrones, preparing some blog posts, and playing with Kate at the park might not be some people’s idea of a good time, but it works for me.
Tell me, how do you make the most of your weekends?