Prompt for December 25: Traditions. Do you follow old traditions or do you work to create new traditions? What role has tradition played in your life over the past year? Are there traditions you hope to create or embrace in 2013?
One of the hardest parts of being in a committed relationship is blending all that stuff that you used to do separately. When we were dating, Dan and I would spend Thanksgivings apart and exchange Christmas gifts ahead of our family activities.
But after we got engaged, we wanted to spend those holidays together. But then that meant divvying up time with each of our families.
At first we figured we’d just do Thanksgiving one place, Christmas the other, and reverse it the next year. And that was all well and good. But it felt kind of sad. When I was with Dan’s family, I thought about my family. And when we were with my family, I thought about Dan’s family.
So a couple of years ago, I hinted at the idea of a shared Thanksgiving. How we all could gather at my parents or my in laws, and we all can contribute to a big meal. And how that way, we can all see each other.
And they agreed. And not only that, but they expanded on my shared Thanksgiving idea. Now we have shared Thanksgivings and Christmases and birthdays and random just because get togethers. We have big plans for a giant family fry fest.
When I got married and especially after we had Kate, I thought about all the traditions and things I wanted to instill in our little family. I didn’t think I’d be fortunate enough to create this big, cumbaya, my family and Dan’s family experience with blended traditions.
I’m thankful to my parents and Dan’s parents for making it happen. And for opening their hearts and homes to each other so no one has to choose. Instead we all choose to be together, the best tradition of all.