Prompt 8: Sometimes we wish we could hit the rewind button. Talk about an experience that you would do over if you could.
Coulda, woulda, shoulda.
It’s tempting to go down that I should have done x path. I could have done things differently. But for me, that kind of thinking is dangerous and gets me into a pit of despair. That kind of thinking paralyzes me from making choices in the here and now.
I don’t always like how everything is going in my life. But when I think about how I got here and where here is, I wouldn’t want to change a thing.
When I was an undergraduate and making lots of decisions – big and small – for myself, I hemmed and hawed much of the time. I’d call my mom and ask her should I take this class, should I pursue this major, should I try for this opportunity? What’s the most perfect choice? What’s the best course of action?
My mom taught me two things:
1) There is no perfect choice.
2) Make the best decision you can with the facts at hand.
The more choices I’ve made, the more I realize the wiseness in my mom’s words. When I decided to graduate college in three years, when Dan and I decided to get married, when we both decided on changing jobs, when we purchased our home, when we decided to have children. Could we have done some things differently? Absolutely. But did we make the best decisions with the facts at hand? Definitely. And would I change a thing? No way.