Monthly Archives: February, 2015

February Funk

February 24th, 2015 Posted by Connection, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “February Funk”

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I think I find myself in a funk every February. It’s freezing. It’s snowing. And the kids get so many school closings and delays that they’re out of school (and we’re out of a routine) for weeks.

My dry and cracked hands burn from all the hand washing to hopefully prevent us from picking up the creeping crud that’s going around the preschool. We’re moody. We’re tired of stuffing the kids into coats. We’re promising not to whine this summer when the temperature reaches 98 degrees with 100 percent humidity. Ha!

Anyway, all this to say: I’m taking a February Funk break. I think just for this week. Podcast and posts to resume next week. In the meantime, I’m going to apply lotion to my hands, pour myself some hot tea, and think warm thoughts.

Podcast #54 // Jessica Turner from The Fringe Hours

February 17th, 2015 Posted by Podcast, The Sarah R. Bagley Podcast, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Podcast #54 // Jessica Turner from The Fringe Hours”

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Photo via Jessica at The Mom Creative

When Jessica contacted me about her new book, The Fringe Hours, I knew I had to interview her for the podcast. This book speaks to everything I’m all about. I used to feel guilty for taking any time for myself, my own interests, and my own development.

But now I see how time for me only makes me a better person, mom, wife, and friend. For me, it’s not at all selfish. It’s imperative. And like Jessica, I steal hours here and there – sometimes hours that nobody notices and sometimes hours that I need to arrange – to ensure that I get time that fuels me up inside.

But this book isn’t just for moms or even moms of young kids. When I read this book, I thought about my mother and my good friend, both of whom lead lives that look completely different from mine, yet I know both of these women would benefit from this book.

Another thing I love about this book and Jessica are the various ways to connect with Jessica, the book, and others reading the book. Check out these links for more information:

DaySpring link (for autographed copies)

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For the Love of My Mini Van

February 11th, 2015 Posted by Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “For the Love of My Mini Van”

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The Explorer vs. Mini Van talk is a frequent topic of discussion around here.

Explorer vs. Mini Van. Explorer vs. Mini Van.

I have a 2005 Explorer with a third row, albeit a third row I never use because it’s well… not that useful. The Explorer was great when it was just Kate. And when Michael was born, and I was carting him around in that crazy heavy and awkward infant carrier…it was okay.

But not-so-slowly the lack of sliding doors and the height of the Explorer and the inability to use the third row with any amount of ease made me super cranky. And then I found out I was pregnant.

That’s when I started my push for the mini van.

It’s not that Dan was against the mini van, per se. He simply preferred the Explorer given his size and stature (at 6’4 he’s not a small guy). However, I sweetly pointed out that this would be my car, the car I’d be driving 99% of the time. And that I’m the one who carts our children all over God’s green Earth.

And he agreed with that. He suggested we look at Explorers with the captains chairs, thinking that could be a compromise. But, really, in the end, we both agreed that the lure of those sliding doors and the low loading (so our kids can get into the car themselves) was strong.

So on Friday we ventured out to the Honda dealer. And five hours later drove home in the Honda Odyssey Touring in White Diamond.

I’m pretty much the happiest girl in the world.

Since my car was a 2005, it clearly wasn’t ancient. But, from a technology standpoint, it was eons behind. This car is smarter than I am. What car companies can do now totally blows my mind.

And the ride? OMG so smooth! My Explorer was one of the last to be built on a truck platform. And it felt like it. I had no idea how bumpy my car was until I got behind the wheel of the van. I just kept saying, it’s so smooth, how come it’s so smooth, Dan, can you BELIEVE how smooth this car rides?! And Dan’s all, I know, I’m sitting next to you.

My sweet Honda Odyssey, you’ve made my dreams come true. Instead of inwardly groaning when I know it’s time to load the kids up to go to school or the grocery or wherever, I squeal with glee and hit the open button on the van and the doors slide like magic, allowing my small people to get in the car without my lugging in their heavy bodies. And when I drive it, I’m confident we’re safe. And when I’m in a tight parking spot, I don’t have to perform gymnastics and squeeze my ever-growing-belly between doors because they sliiiiiiide. PRAISE!

And don’t even get my started on the power lift gate. SWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON!

I love this Honda with all my might. It’s like a house on wheels. Anything that makes life with kids easier gets a big thumbs up in my book. Honda, I love you.

Podcast #53 // Elizabeth Chapman on Motherhood, Working, and Balance

February 10th, 2015 Posted by Podcast, The Sarah R. Bagley Podcast, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Podcast #53 // Elizabeth Chapman on Motherhood, Working, and Balance”

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I adore Elizabeth Chapman. We are most definitely kindred spirits. I totally relate to her blog, and I love linking up with the Mid-Month Confessions.

Grab a cup of coffee or tea and settle in for our chat about being perfectionistic first borns, struggles with perfectionism as first time moms, work and loving our jobs, and how we “balance” work, home, and family.

Please subscribe to the podcast in iTunes, and I’d love it if you’d take two minutes to rate and review the show.  Thank you!  I appreciate the support.

#reverb15 // January

February 9th, 2015 Posted by Connection, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “#reverb15 // January”

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reverb15 is a prompt-a-day series for the month of December designed to reflect on 2015 and project on hopes and dreams for 2016.  Through December 31st Meredith, Kat and I will post each day with a new prompt.  Join us by writing, or join us by reading.   Follow us on Twitter @project_reverb and hashtag #reverb14.  Let’s reverb.

Each month, Kat, Meredith, and I are sending out monthly prompts before December’s daily prompts. This was January’s:

Ungoals | What are so NOT doing this year? What’s on your “I just can’t care about that” list?

I think my pal, Kim, said it best when she said, the older you get, the fewer amount of flips you can give. I totally agree with this.

In previous years, I spent 100% of my energy giving all the flips about all the things. It didn’t really get me anywhere. And was totally exhausting.

And my people pleasing nature added, negatively, to my energy level. I’d run around trying to be everything to everyone. And then feeling depleted and resentful.

I agree with Kim that you can’t care about everything. It’s just ineffective. At least for me. I’ve got some things I’m interested in doing. But, I only give a flip about the really important things: my family, my dear friends, my work, and myself. Not what other people think. Not what other people think I should do or be. Because I’ve got a limited about of flips to give. And then they’re all used up!

How many flips can you give a month? Do you think it decreases as you get older?

Friday, Friday!

February 6th, 2015 Posted by Connection, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Friday, Friday!”

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It’s Friday, it’s Friday!

The older Michael gets, the more fun he is as a playmate for Kate. And Kate discovered that, at least half of the time, she can get him to be her baby doll. Sometimes he’s into it. For example: he wore that flowered fleece jacket all week. I kept getting stares at the grocery and CVS and the mall. And I thought I must be looking real great. Until I realized they were staring at my son, wearing a girl’s jacket.

Ask me how much I care.

#whathappenswhenyouhaveanoldersister

Speaking of sisters and brothers and adding one more to our clan…we’re going to look at Honda Odysseys this weekend. I could not be more ecstatic. And I mean that entirely truthfully!

Fun fact about me: I learned to drive on my parent’s Dodge Grand Mini Van. I loved that van. We all loved that van. My Dad hauled a lot of girls from one softball game to another in that van. We took a great many family trips in that van (while I sulked in the way back, but not because of the van, because I was a teen.). My Dad taught me to be an expert back-in parker by having me do figure eights backwards in a parking lot, in that van.

So I love vans.

But I wasn’t sure if we needed one. But then I realized. Oh, yes, I need one, when my hands are full and Micheal is running away and I can’t get the doors to the car open. Hitting a button and having the doors slide open? My heart just skipped a beat thinking about the practicality and ease of a van.

I’m overjoyed to check out vans this weekend. Cannot wait. I’ll let you know what we decide!

Van families: do you love yours?!

Book Report // February 2015

February 5th, 2015 Posted by Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Book Report // February 2015”

I’ve always been a big reader. The Little House on the Prairie series was my first love and true moment where I couldn’t put the books down. (I totally read in class with the book half-way in my desk.) As an adult, I try to find time to read everyday, either in spare moments when I arrive early at preschool pick u,p or during a rare moment when my children are playing nicely, and I can polish off a few chapters. And at night before I go to bed.

Now in my reading life, if I don’t like a book, I won’t finish it. This isn’t something I ever thought I’d do. But then I decided, life’s too short to read books I’m not interested in! So I quit them and pick something else.

Here’s what I’ve been reading:

The One & Only

Geeze.  I adore this author.  But I just couldn’t get into this one.  It’s heavily centered around football, and I’m just not that into football (Sorry, Dad!).  I kept rooting for this story line, thinking, no, I get it, it’s making more sense!  But then, no.  I found it a bit too meandering.  And sort of never reaching a point.  And then the end was…abrupt.  Like, hey, actually, let’s make it all end up tied in bow…and done!  And I was all: …  The actual writing, as always, was well done.  Just didn’t care for the story.

We Were Liars

I read this in just over a day.  It’s a fast-moving book, which I liked.  It was a bit…weird and strange.  The book is about three cousins and their friend and the summers they spend on their wealthy family’s island.  One summer there’s an accident and the main character spends the majority of the book working to remember what happened that summer.  I like stories where they character is trying to put the pieces together (I loved What Alice Forgot).  And I appreciate how the story dealt with family and greed and inheritance, a story line that, sadly, can ring true in real life.  The twisted plot was great.

This Is Where I Leave You

At first I could not get into this book. It seemed…weird? And sad? But I kept going, and I got completely absorbed. It’s a story about a family coming back together to mourn the death of their father. I love stories about big families, and this family has four kids, so that sucked me in. I’m fascinated by family dynamics and how those shift and change over time, especially when there is a tragedy. Loved this book. I see it’s a movie, but I haven’t seen it. Have you? Is it worth a watch?

Big Little Lies

I LOVE Liane Moraity, so I figured I’d love this one. And I did. It’s probably one of my favorites of hers, if not, my favorite thus far. It’s the story of the lives of various parents of kids at a local elementary school. I related right away to the various groups of parents at the school – I think that’s fairly commonplace to have different parent cliques at school. And the three main characters drew me in right away. There’s also a mystery part to this book that I enjoyed as well. I couldn’t put it down and whipped through it in a couple days. Definitely a great read.

Eleanor and Park

I’ve also read Fangirl from Rainbow Rowell, but I think I like Eleanor and Park more. This book was a little sad, in my opinion. But also so good. The depths Rainbow went into to describe these characters…just wow. I felt connected to them, like they were real people I knew. And I think she did a great job describing the complexities of teenagers and their teenager drama without trivializing it.

I’m ready to pick my next book! Any suggestions?!

Baby Bagley #3 is a…

February 4th, 2015 Posted by Connection, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Baby Bagley #3 is a…”

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We are excited to announce Baby Bagley #3 is a BOY!

Podcast #52 // Stephanie Lewis on Trying to Do Everything Perfectly

February 3rd, 2015 Posted by Podcast, The Sarah R. Bagley Podcast, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “Podcast #52 // Stephanie Lewis on Trying to Do Everything Perfectly”

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I feel like I need to do everything. And everything at 100%. So Stephanie and I are kindred spirits because we both feel we should be doing everything at 100%.

We wanted to be the perfect wives. Have the perfect house. Be the most perfect mothers. Host Pinterest parties. Create the perfect meal plan.

We talk all about feeling competitive, comparison, and learning to let all that stuff GO.

Stephanie is a wife, mom, and teacher who, like me, is learning we can’t do everything perfectly. She’s got great advice on doing one thing well and taking time for herself. This is a great episode for moms feeling like they need to do it all and do it all perfectly.

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The Nausea Diaries

February 2nd, 2015 Posted by Connection, Uncategorized 0 thoughts on “The Nausea Diaries”

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Just when I think I’ve kicked it, it comes back around again like a whip.

I was sick with Kate, but I was working full time. So I’d drag myself into work wearing the most comfortable work-appropriate outfit I could muster, slide into my cubicle, and for the most part “work” without talking to anyone. Every couple of hours I’d go hide out in the bathroom where I’d sit on the bathroom floor (ugh, gross, I know) with my head in my hands and breath deep, letting myself nod off for a few minutes before wrenching myself up and shuffling back to my desk.

I should also note when I was pregnant with Kate it was during the bird flu epidemic. I tried to conceal how horrid I felt, but there were some side-eyes and whispers of if anyone thinks they have the flu, stay home! People, you can’t catch what I’ve got.

With Michael, it was worse. Started earlier. Stayed longer. The dry heaving. The intense nausea. The unreal fatigue. And my truly astounding sense of smell. One day I just about flew into a rage when Dan came near me after freshly applying deodorant. GET AWAY FROM ME, I screamed. I CAN’T TAKE THAT SMELL. I’M GONNA BE SICK!

So fun, living with me.

And now this time. Oh, this time.

It’s worse than with Kate and Michael.

And it’s weird.

Sometimes I think…hey…it’s gone…I think it’s gone…OMG…I can start to make plans…I think I’ve got it together…this is gonna be great…oh…wait…wait…oh no…oh no….OH NO.

And it’s back. And I’m dry heaving. And I’m crying. And I’m laying down on the couch with two pillows over my head to drown out the sound of the kids running up and down the halls and Sponge Bob and his sea creature friends doing who knows what on the TV. I pull out my phone and groan because it’s only 3 p.m. And I’ve got several more hours before Dan comes home to relieve me.

Some women have it way worse. And I feel for them. Because “morning sickness” is no joke. It’s quite possibly the most discomfort I’ve ever felt. I feel I’ve had a small glimpse into what it’s like to have a chronic illness/pain. It’s straight up depressing. I feel for people who feel sick everyday. That feeling of debilitation weighs heavy.

I suppose it’s the price one pays for a baby. Truth. Sometimes that helps me get through it. And sometimes not. I’m 15 weeks on Wednesday, and I’m crossing my fingers one of these days I’ll really turn that corner. Oh, nausea, you tricky minks. I’ve got my guard up and my saltines at the ready.

Okay, enough about nausea. Let’s chat about the postpartum period! Another glam time in the life of a mother! Kellie Edson interviewed me on her podcast, The Postpartum Podcast. We chatted all about that tough postpartum period, the intense loneliness I didn’t know I would feel, the complete change in my identity, and being confident as a new mom.

Hi! I’m Sarah, I am passionate about creating community, building deep connections, and the power of creativity. I live in Northern Virginia with my husband, our three kids, and our golden-lab mix.

I believe in leggings as pants, and I drink my coffee black. I love shopping at Costco, teaching group exercise classes, and, athleisure.

say hello!

sarah@bagley.org